We get this inquiry a couple of times a year.  A mother has been asked to dress her son as a flower girl complete with dress.  She’s usually concerned and asks us if this is normal.

And the answer is clear - no.

There are certain sects or interest groups who follow this tradition.  We suspect that it comes from the ancient tradition of sending a “decoy” down the aisle to attract evil spirits so the marriage is not cursed. 

But it is not common.  Not today. As most mothers ask us, “is this normal”?  No.

Boys certainly can participate in a wedding party!  Their roles include Ring Bearer, Jr. Groomsmen and Ushers.   They can also be called “Paiges”.  They dress like boys, though it can be short or long pants.

Does this mean you should refuse? No, the matter is entirely in your hands.  If you love the idea and the boy is willing, it’s entirely  your call.

But flower girls are typically girls.